Hey mate,
What it might be worth doing, is getting your post count up to prove your not a dick... see this thread for why
http://www.havenandhearth.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=31&t=25886Thats a pretty good post/guide on what possible community and villages will do when they offer or you ask to join them. If you have a low post count its more of a risk for them to take on you, if you have a higher post count and no posts making you look like a spoilt little kid or a dick... then many villages/communities may offer you to join them

Hope it works out for you mate, the game is quite rewarding once you get into it