1: I thought you said you respawned a new guy in a Fir Forest, surrounded by Pines, The bed works fine for me. Not that you need the ability to Fast Travel anywhere, you most likely be to far from the RoB (Center of the world) to reach if. You need a good amount of AGI to lower the cost of traveling. Using a bed to log off will cause the TW to go down, it will take forever to decrease to 0 but its not like you need it yet...
2: Wheat is found on Grasslands, its a Light Green colour on the map, its hard to find but if you do make sure you take enough but leave some as a curtsy or something. ATM I am going around my area and Screencapping crops and other things to make a small guide for newbs...
3: It can be impossible to find out where you are because last that I checked there are another 4 layers to the original 9 that is present on the Maplib site, the only possible way of know where abouts you could be is to find someone that can party you and have them stand at RoB for a simple bearing. Seeing as the RoB is the center of the world. Finding someone on the other hand....