in my area live very few people and we don't live at the river, you cant see my claim for the river.In my area are 3 villages, 1 I'm friends with, 1 I don't know, 1 is bowerstone and they seem to have their own problems.I saw tons of battery/assault scents on their village claim today and somebody looted their barterstand I think...
and I have friends in a powerfull polish village in the south
but they add me to their village for trade and that wouldn't work anymore if I get my own village...
Bowerstone had a thread up, seems there's been a coup d'etat and some other nonsense over there.. just leave them alone, they're probably too busy in their own drama to worry about you.
Make a new character, hearth secret spawn into your village, log out. Now you have a character you can trade with any time, and if they get killed somehow, you only lose what was on your character. Also you can make a crossroads leading to them, and let them make one leading to you (make sure it's outside your walls though, wouldn't want them to get raided and give access to raiders like that

). Problem solved?
Anyways, it's good that you've made some powerful friends, they might be able to come help you in case you get raided.
*edit* PS: I'm not the best player out there or anything, hopefully some of the more experienced players will come in here and nod at my suggestions; else fix them.