opiemonster wrote:ok thanks so if i want to trade i have to do it with someone with a village and i dont need to destroy my own hearth ?
Yes, unless they live literally right next door. The only way to fast travel to them is if they have a village idol. But you will have to break your hearthfire if they are far enough away.
You won't have to break your own hearth if you either have enough agility to travel to them/you are close enough to them. Otherwise it will cost you over 100% travel weariness, therefore disabling you from fast-traveling to them. Breaking your hearthfire eliminates that burden (unless you use crossroads to travel of course).
Your best bet would be to have a village idol before trading. Unless you are familiar with the map (
http://algeralith.info/HavenMap) and don't mind traveling by foot.