1) You simply won't be able to fight animals for quite some time. Get settled first, build yourself a fence or even better yet a palisade to protect yourself from animals. When you have a better understanding of the game mechanics read this:
http://www.havenandhearth.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=65182) In the kinlist menu you can set a hearthsecret, a new spawned character can use that hearthsecret at the Sherlock Holmes guy in the character creation room to spawn next to you.
3) Be a little more friendly and a little less sarcastic, otherwise you won't get much help around here. You are not the first one to struggle with the game mechanics. This is no cookie cutter mmo, but you have to find out the hard way in H&H. If you cannot handle getting beaten up or even dying a few times this might be the wrong game for you.
4) Awesome beginners guide and hey look it is even sticky:
http://www.havenandhearth.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=3196