I tl;dr'd OP twice but responses made it seem interesting so I read it and lol
it's a PvP game, don't whine because people are better than you, just be smart not to die and join with with pro guys, you don't necessarily need to be a villager in pro town like pandemonium to be a part of them, there's alliances and shit i assume (im only 2 weeks old too lol)
one thing I've found is you won't make much progress if you hang around with newbies lol
and protip: get a brick wall, cuz the only the top villages bother to deal with those and generally that's if they have an excuse to, so just don't give them any :]