@ OP: I opened this thread for the first time a couple minute ago and thought I would start on this page to see if I can catch the gist of it and if it's worth the read. Well, here I am posting, so you can imagine I found it more than just worth the read. So, after flipping back to the start and reading all of it, here is what I have for you, if you are interested.
Firtsly, it will probably make sense for me to qualify myself for this to have context and meaning (except, I suspect you personally don't require as much). I have played this game as a noob hermit and a veteran hermit. I have belonged to and LS'ed noob villages. I have been a member of some of the most successful villages this game has seen.
The reason why I am taking the time to post here is because I genuinly enjoyed some of your posts in this thread. By what you have said and moreso, how you have said it, I gauge you to be decently intelligent. I suspect however that you now have your back up and it's not helping you read into the detail of some explanations. Since I'm not one of the guys that pissed you off, maybe allow me a moment before shutting off to what I'm saying, or get your defences up. I have no alterior motives here, I don't need to have any. I like you and would like to help you, simple as that.
Playing as a hermit can be great, I did so for a couple of months in W6. Probably noone even knew that. Other than that it gets lonely pretty quickly, it can quite simply not compete on any level with being part of a village. I would like to recommend that you give it a try, despite the fact that you have now found issue with it. Some of the things mentioned here are true, as rediculous as it sounds and I would like to use 'free food' as an example.
I agree whole-heartedly with you that to fill cupboards and cupboards of food is piss easy, no doubt. Villages (decent ones at least) do however not even keep foodstuffs like meat, carrots and chantrelles for consumption. Food in this game is NOT about survival. You seriously need to fuck up properly to actually starve. Food is about stats. Villages don't dable with base foods, everything is processed into higher tier FEP-rich foods and now it is a different ball game. To make cupboards and cupboards of processed food is a LOT of work and couple to that; Believe me when I tell you that it is MUCH easier and WAY faster to consume all of it than it is to make it. So when you ask for free food from a village they don't see you asking for some roasted beef, raw chicken and a handful of carrots, they see someone that they don't know (yet) 'insiting' on free food that was damn hard work, with the risk that the person could clean out a mansion of processed food in half a day if given access to, with a mere promise of their labour.
It would have been nice if someone actaully explained this to you in more detail other than 'free food? fuck you!'.
That is just one example and the message that I would actually like to bring accross to you is that at this stage you simply don't know what you don't know and you also don't know what you are missing yet. Village life is genuinly the way this game is meant to be played and is the case for by far the greater majority of players. I urge you to give it a go so that you can go see these things for yourself. There are so many things like the food example that you really only get to appreciate completely once you have been part of a decent (<- important) village, this I promise you.