Hollogodis wrote:well kind of is "how do i not get killed and scammed" haha
I don't think you're shitposting, I do understand you're asking a genuine question it's just I don't want to comment politically (ie shitposting) in HDI.
The general "How do I not die?", in rough order of importance/ease of use (your choice how much effort you put into it):
Have a palisade with only a visitor gate leading in where your hearthfire is. Preferably your HF will be inside so other players can't track your online times. Cave entrances and minehole entrances should be treated as "outside" so they need visitor gates and a wall blocking them off as well.
Wall every layer of minehole below your base to prevent enemies being able to cross up/down easily.
Always try to stay at absolutely the highest MHP you can. Worst case scenario a PvPer can get ~90% of your HHP in a single knockdown. The more HHP you're missing as a % of your total, the more likely death is. If you are sporting more than 10% HHP missing, consider playing on an alt or doing chores inside the base.
Create panic rooms on your outer walls/near your base. "Panic room" is a palisaded log cabin with the best metal lock you can muster on the house (gates can't be lock picked). You need normal, not visitor, gates leading in so you can get inside while being aggroed. The average raider won't be able to pick the lock fast enough to get you before you drop aggro and either log off or hearth elsewhere. I do not suggest connecting them to the inside of your base just for safety redundancy. Some buildings can be locked inside the base for the similar effect but be careful to keep keys on a key alt in case you have yours stolen.
Carry several water skins in your belt/inventory if possible. This gets more realistic with grande belts and exquisite ones. This gives you a chance of running far enough to find safety possibly.
Stay off waterways entirely. Groups of raiders in knarrs are very lethal to run into.
If on a horse, avoid unknown players entirely. They can freeze you in place and dismount you almost effortlessly if you're not careful.
Carry a coracle instead of a backpack. The ability to cross a river (probably using a coracle script to place it) while your enemies have to swim can open a life saving gap to deaggro.
Create multiple Pclaimed panic rooms in areas you foraging areas for safety.