I didn't say we should help you, you misunderstood me there. I wish some clear statements from the leaders of the western countries telling the world iand their people that Putin is a soulless dictator and not act like he is their best friend.
Democracy is nothing easy to achieve and is an ever evolving, ever to be fought for proccess. It is sometimes doomed to fail if it is brought to people who don't wnat it or better who are not ready for it. Because in any case it is preferable over the regimes people usually have to endure. It might take time for people to realize how important it is to take back the power over their own country.
The Russian people and to some extend its neighbours too seem to be a special case here and probably you are right that the US and the Europeans are somewhat guilty that you don't even want another regime. Not even with all those people suffering there under the power of a few rich criminals. I hope you and your people one day will realize by themselves that freedom from opression is something worth fighting for and that it doesn't need an opressive dictator to have a strong leadership over a country. Until then I probably cannot do much to change your opinion and as I said that probably partially is really the fault of the West (not alone though, that would be too easy of an explanation).
Don't fool yourself about the status quo in your region of the world though. I have good contacts there, contacts to what should be considered the elite of the country. Academics, doctors, teachers. You know what? They all live in deep poverty and fear. Yet you want to tell me everything is good there?
There is a heart surgeon for children. In Germany that guy would not only be incredibly rich like he deserves to be, because he went through one of the toughest schooling there is and now is using his skills to make sure our future is alive and healthy. He would also have the best possible reputation and every single woman would want to marry him. In Russia this guy has to work a nightjob because he cannot pay the rent for his appartment, a very small appartment.
There is the vice-police chief of a somewhat bigger town. He is earning 300€ a month. His normal street working colleagues are getting half of that. The smallest appartments cost around 200€. How you ask they earn the mones to survive? Corruption it is! Intended by Putin? Oh, I think he is smart enough to know what it means to keep the payment of his own policeforce low enough to enforce corruption.
He is doing it for his buddies. The rich guys, the businessmen he didn't throw into prison. The ones obeying him.
There are the normal teachers. The ones responsible for the education of (y)our future generations. They don't even earn what the normal poilceman gets and opposed to him they have nobody offering them a bribe.
For these pseudo-arguments à la "But the social system was good". Just one sentence: In Germany it is usually right-wing party propaganda to say that Hitler did build roads and offered a lot of people jobs. This is considered such an ridiculous argument that it became a running gag in Germany. I guess none of you would try to argue Hitler was a great man only because he helped people find work. That is a ridiculous and simplified view one might even be inclined to argue that it has been simplified on purpose. Don't really have to say much else about such nonsense as Iraq had a stable social system, Ghaddafi helped people to get work...
Edit: South Africa is a democracy and considerably rich for average african conditions. Of course still high crime rates, a lot of poverty, still racism. But it is really not the best example out there to pick. Any other africna country would have done a better job to help your argument.