There seems to have been a lot new players joining since that video on youtube went up. Just wanted to warn you guys not to spawn at any of the charterstones (The trap door sends you to charterstones). They are not good places to spawn at all, you're much better off starting in the wilderness by walking up the ladder.
If you want a friend to spawn with you, set your hearthsecret by going to the heart at the bottom of your screen and typing something into "My hearth secret" box and press set. Your friend can then talk to the person in the top part of the character creation room and type in your hearth secret and spawn at your hearthfire.