I'm gonna make this simple and sweet in my drunk state. tl;dr is game is good enjoy your time. Realm chat or the Grand List of Simple Questions is your friend:
viewtopic.php?f=42&t=71318, do not ask them questions. Ask them questions after you search said question in:
https://ringofbrodgar.com/ our favorite wiki. Yes the game hates you. Yes it's hostile. Yes it's a pain before you put up a palisade. That's the idea love it or hate it. If you like it? Welcome! Remember an abridged version of the NAP applies. Rejoice in the bloodshed! Alternatively enjoy the grind. It's fun but I'm gonna be frank after ass blasting someone with a B12, a troll, mammoth, and snail it's okay. Fun but okay. FFXIV fishing while you grind here highly recommend. Great game. Find something to afk during grinds. Don't afk mining or do. Stay for hermit wars after 4 months. Combat ain't hard trust me.
Edit: Yes the community is hostile. Hostile in the sense you can't search an answer for yourself. This ain't a job in welding where your trainer teaches you. This is stick welding. Get good faggot, look up guides, and understand. If this makes sense, or not, then good. If it does make sense and you can stick weld bravo brother learn aluminum welding with beer cans. No job site hates our kind. You'll love this game in this case for we embrace hostile environments.